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[quote=Anonymous]I am just wondering if anyone has advice, perhaps someone who has BTDT.  My family is from the DC area, however my husbands job had us relocated for the past year. My sister and I are quite close and communicated daily while i was gone, along with visits.  However, upon my return we went out for a girls night, got a little bit tipsy and she opened up to me. She let me know her marriage to her husband has gone from bad to worse--I always knew he had a short temper. One christmas he called her an idiot ( in front of us) for having someone open the wrong gift by accident. I was shocked he spoke to her this way, so at the time questioned her and she said that when he was stressed or angry he would call her names and demean her ( even in front of their young child).  This alone shocked me , but as she seemed to brush it off I didn't want to overstep so just let her know she could always talk to me and i felt it was wrong, but I dropped it. When I talked to her on our girls night she informed me that not only did he still berate her , go off at the drop of a hat, but also that he had pushed her. She said it was only once and he apologized profusely, but to me that is a line that once crossed is hard to return from.  She then dropped the bigger bomb on me---she is in love with her colleague. I know this is so cliche. She works for a small non profit and this was her "work husband".  He is single, no kids, but at the holiday party after a few drinks confessed he loved her.  She realized she felt the same.  He sounds like the exact opposite of her husband, kind, calm, sweet and loving.  My initial reaction was happy for her ( i know this seems crazy), but she seemed so happy. However now that I have had a couple days to think about it, I worry that my reaction is just enabling the situation. As much as i am not a fan of her husband, I am not sure if supporting an emotional affair is smart.  She swears they have not done anything physical and they won't as long as she is married. She is telling me this is giving her the push to leave the husband , which i have secretly been hoping she would do---so feel in a way i am enabling this.  Is that wrong of me to do? She is my younger sister , so I admit I do feel the need to protect her and perhaps overstep my boundaries, but would appreciate any advice or thoughts. I have never been in a situation like this so am in unchartered territory.  [/quote]

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