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[quote=Anonymous]OP, just add "lots of violent, drug-induced behavior" to your description and that is my family to a T.  For the past few years it's been a moot point b/c sibling has been IN JAIL over the holidays and so we were less concerned about exposing our kids to a potentially violent and damaging situation.

DH and I, as well as some extended family members, finally put our collective feet down after years of this.  Sib is not welcome in our homes, sib is not welcome around our children (and DH would add, not welcome around me.  He does not like what being around sib does to me).  Parents have been forced to make some pretty painful choices.  I recognize this, objectively - yes, this SUCKS for them as they are sib's only lifeline and enablers.  But this is THEIR CHILD and they have the right to do what is best for that child.  However, the rest of the family is simply doing what's best for THEIR kids.

Everyone is making choices, even my parents who, I think, still feel that their choice was thrust upon them.  I try to remember that they are making a choice, a hard choice, and not hold it against them that they choose to spend holidays with sib instead of me/my family.  It's tough, I won't lie.

OP, do you or your parents see your brother regularly?  Can you "sense" when he's about to start a downhill slide?  If so, can you have a candid talk with your parents about the best way to handle next year?  They couldn't have enjoyed the tension, either.[/quote]

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