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[quote=Anonymous]Don't talk to your ex about this. His girlfriend isn't obligated to have a relationship with you, and it's inappropriate to put your ex in the middle of it. You'll be forcing him to take sides, and if he sides with his girlfriend you could damage your co-parenting relationship with him, which is what should be the priority. The only time I can see it being even remotely a parenting issue is when she wants to see the girlfriend when dad is out of town. And even then, you call her and (when she doesn't answer) leave a message saying "DD would like to come by and see you while her dad is away, please call me so we can figure out a time it might work." And then leave it to her to call you or not.

I realize it's frustrating, but the best thing to do is to rise above it and don't create conflict. Ultimately you want your ex's home life situation to be best for your DD, right? Which means keeping a friendly relationship with your ex, not antagonizing his girlfriend (which having a conversation with your ex would) so that she perhaps turns sour on your DD, and letting your ex see his girlfriend for who she is based on how she responds to your kindness as he decides what role she'll have in his life long-term.[/quote]

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