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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I was you, only chid, family of my own. Parent who was a gambler. Short answer to loaning money is HELLLLLL NO! I paid a few utility bills, bought groceries (that were not eaten) and paid for replacement dentures. I hit my limit. I will not co- sign on dysfunction, it makes it worse. You cannot make someone be someone they are not, you just can't . Loving someone means not participating in your lived ones illness. Set clear boundaries, be willing to help them get in a progr, take to doc appointments. Helping is NOT paying off gambling debts. My parent ended up dying from complications of a chronic illness. This person did not take their medicine, they spent the money gambling. It was sad existence and I feel sadder about that than for having lost them to death. They were just never happy.[/quote]
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