Reply to Is my brother gay? Does it matter? What should I do? I want him to know he can talk to me.

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Is my brother gay? Does it matter? What should I do? I want him to know he can talk to me."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Talking about my much younger brother (he's eighteen and just started university).

I think he's gay (I'm bi and have a heightened gaydar). He seemed to have a crush on a high school English teacher; he talked about him long after ninth grade, when the guy had been his teacher. One day, we were talking about an ex of mine and he said "Yeah, your guy is subtle-ly muscular, just like Mr. Teacher." He went on to say that he was surprised by his teacher's muscles that Halloween, when I guess the guy wore a sports jersey. This was an indication to me.

He's dated a couple of girls very casually but remains tight-lipped about his personal life (I'm not nosy, but even when I ask in passing he has nothing to say). When I asked him over Thanksgiving if he was interested in dating, he basically said "it's not really something I think about." I was his age once and, granted, I was always boy-crazy, but it seems unusual to me for an eighteen year old to be so uninterested in dating.

Please note that my mother and his father, while high-profile Washington liberals, would be heartbroken/aghast to learn that their son is gay. I suspect this would keep him from coming out of the closet. What are your thoughts? Am I reading too much into this or am I on to something? If he is, how can I convey my unconditional love and acceptance to him without saying "Brother, if you're gay, you can tell me"?

I'm at a loss.
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics