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[quote=Anonymous]Agree with above; however, depending on how temperamental they are, you might want to still give a gift this year because it's right before Christmas.  Then have that conversation (or send that email) over the summer, or in early fall.  Just because it's Dec. 16, now.

Interesting--I'd like to do this with a niece and nephew.  But my cousin and I have a great relationship and I like the niece and nephew.  However; they are far away, I don't know what to get them, and I'm always floundering around Christmastime.  I get them some Jackson&Perkins carmel corn and candy or something, and I feel bad because my cousin is on top of everything and last year got my kids each an outfit from Justice--nice!  And wrapped it and sent it in the mail.  I feel crappy that I am so lame compared to her and do something online where I don't have to go to the store, pick something out, wrap it, and go to the  PO.

So I don't think I sink to the level of your SIL (because they CAN eat it and it's NOT cheap) but I admit it's the kind of gift that is not "individualized," and I do feel bad about it.  But anyways, I'm just saying that your SIL will probably be relieved.  Ha, this year, my cousin sent us Jackson & Perkins candy back, and I think she's "had it" with me and so is giving me a taste of my own medicine.

But just want to say, just do it (stop the gift giving or give one more time and then stop it mid-year) and don't waste time on being resentful.  Different people have different competencies when it comes to Christmas gift giving, so don't assume she's giving you lame gifts because she's really saying "f-you, I don't care."[/quote]

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