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[quote=Anonymous]Brother and SIL recently moved near me, and bought an enormous house.  Enormous, as in, they don't even use a wing of it.

They promptly offered to host Thanksgiving which I had been planning, and I agreed.

I brought all my gear and cooked the turkey at their place because SIL insisted, and frankly, with the amount of time it takes turkey to cook, I didn't feel like cooking it all alone at home while people were hanging out and having fun at their place.  It turned into a big PITA for me.

All the guests are our guests, so its not like brother and SIL knew them (my in-laws, our friends).  No other joint family.

I really don't want them to host Thanksgiving again while foisting the turkey on me.  I think, "host roasts turkey."  Isn't that in a rulebook somewhere?  I can host and cook turkey, or they can host and cook turkey, or someone can host and cater, I don't care.

How do I handle future Thanksgivings?  Brother and SIL are already talking about next year.  I also think the guests seemed mostly uncomfortable, due to the huge house, the fact that the location was changed somewhat last minute, and they didn't know the hosts at all.  How can you couch "Uh, I don't want to do turkey" without hurting their feelings and also coming off as petty?  I mean, they are doing sides, drinks, etc. and opening up their home, least I can do is the turkey, right?  But I would much rather bring a nice side dish than load up my car with: roasting pan, defrosted, brined bird, butter, thermometer, etc. etc. you get the idea.  Ugh.  I think they are generous people, and I guess I understand wanting to put their huge house to some use.  But I don't like this division of labor. [/quote]

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