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[quote=Anonymous]I have a 22 yr. old son who has been away at college the past almost four months. He came home briefly for Thanksgiving week for a home visit and it was [u]HELL.[/u]

The entire visit/week was just a disaster and now he is coming back again for Christmas and I am already dreading it.

I am on the verge of calling him this evening to tell him he cannot come after such a disastrous last visit, but I feel like such a bad mother. Plus, he lives in a dorm and would have nowhere to stay for winter break. But he IS a grown adult and that shouldn't be my responsibility anymore, right??! Or is it??

Initially he was going to stay at college for Thanksgiving week, but then at the last minute he decided he wanted to come home so I gave him money for the Amtrak train round-trip. While he was here, he ate a ton of food and he had his buddies over almost every single day/night and they ate a lot of my food too. (When my son left, the first thing I did was go to the store to replace everything they ate!)

He also had his friends here almost every night, and they left their mess in the house and didn't pick up after themselves.

I let my son use my vehicle and gas, and he left my car a mess, used up 3/4 tank of fuel plus left my car unlocked parked in a public street overnight. (We don't have a garage on-site where we reside.)

He also had a bad attitude toward me. For example, when I asked him when he was going to unload the dishwasher for me, he got all snarky and responded, "I am 22 now....I can't believe you are still giving me chores like a kid!!"

So basically when he went back to school, I felt a [i]huge[/i] weight lifted off of my shoulders and now, knowing he is coming back again, I am dreading it. I actually want to tell him he cannot come, but honestly he has no money or nowhere to go, but at his age, I am no longer legally responsible for him. Morally however I feel guilty.

WWYD? [/quote]

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