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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 
I think my DS likes school because of the routines and he loves the academics and specials (music, art, etc).  I asked him once about how he felt about his peers or why he doesn't talk to them, but he couldn't seem to comprehend, so I never asked him again.  I know that peer interaction is hard for him and thus, he tends to avoid it, but he still needs to learn social skills.  Just like Math / Reading is hard for some kids, but they still need learn, do homework, pass the test, etc, whether they like it or not.

As for having a kid coming over to our house for a playdate, it's not a typical "you kids go play upstairs" kind of playdate. I set up art projects, science experiments, cooking and facilitate their play, then slowly fade myself so my DS can learn to sustain interaction with his friend.  My DS asks to have a playdate, really excited about it, but when his friend is here, he barely says anything to his friend nor to me throughout the entire playdate time!

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Your analogy between math/reading and social skills is interesting, but look at it another way.  Some kids are really good at math or science, some are just fair or okay.  Your son is okay or proficient at play dates.  He doesn't excel at them.  He seems fine with that.  Why make it an issue?  And turning social life = homework sounds like a way to poison the situation to me.[/quote]

Her child has been diagnosed with autism.  It isn't just a case of not excelling at peer to peer relationships.  He will have to be taught how to interact with peers, it will not come naturally for him.  The gap will continue and probably expand. Once parents are not in charge of friendships, the play dates will cease.  BTDT.  She will have to work harder in the future to provide her child with opportunities for socialization.  School will not be enough.  Religious youth groups, scouts, TKD, band/orchestra, drama club and social skills classes are all good places to for her to seek as her child ages.  [/quote]

I agree with everything you just wrote.  But I still think OP's views are too forced.[/quote]

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