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[quote=Anonymous]DH is licensed as an RN (BSN) and a professional counselor (MA in clinical psychology). His psych grad program specialized in classical behaviorial psychology. (Skinner and all that.)

Behavioral reward are set up for behavior/reward.  Your son uses bad behavior to get your attention. He doesn't care if you are angry. He has your attention.My son was much the same way.

What we did to end that was time-outs. Not revolutionary, but it worked. He need to get ZERO reinforcement for bad behavior and a time-out from attention was the way to do that. If he acted up, broke a rule, whatever, he was sent to his room for a time-out. Immediately. No reminders. No yelling. Just go to your room for X minutes (X = age of child)  My kid would start to tantrum in his room. We let that happen. No behavior reinforcement.  If he started kicking walls or doors, we went to his room and put him in a basket hold.

Here's an explanation of a basket hold from another web site: "Stand behind the child, reach around her, and cross her arms in front of her chest.

Loosely encircle the child's left wrist with your right thumb and forefinger, and encircle the child's right wrist with your left thumb and forefinger.

Do NOT squeeze the child's wrist; otherwise, you'll bruise her.

Hold the child's arms tightly enough to prevent her from getting enough leverage to hurl her upper body or head into your chest.

Do NOT pull the child's arms; this can readily dislocate a small shoulder.

Slide to the floor and place the child between your legs.

Put your legs over the child's legs to prevent kicking, but be careful not to crush the child's legs.

As the child rages and struggles (often spitting, cursing, and attempting to kick and bite — this is what causes some adults to lose their cool; tantrums can last from a minute to an hour), speak in soothing tones:“It's okay. You're all right. I'll keep you safe. I'll control you until you can control yourself. I'll let go when you settle down.”"   When the kid stops, let him go. Go back to what you were doing. Ask him to do the correct behavior and praise him for doing it.

If we are in public, the time out is on a bench or the floor. I will go to a baskethold in public if it doesn't stop.

The other side of this technique is rewarding good behavior.  Any correct behavior gets a lot of praise and positive attention.  You want to make it more rewarding to do the right thing. [/quote]

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