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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, again. Thanks. I'm probably romanticizing this too much and maybe my gut was telling me something there, [b]because if he was the man I keep romanticizing in my head, he'd have probably accepted my olive branch when I offered it. Or at least my apology[/b]. [/quote]

sorry OP - by your own admission you pushed him away several times.  Any self-respecting person, man or woman, can take only so much.

While I'm very sorry for your pain, do not disillusion yourself into thinking you did nothing wrong - your mistake was that you never properly healed.

take the advice others have given - get help, heal fully and properly and make sure you and your DC are in a great place before even thinking of dating again.

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Not OP, but I don't think she said she did nothing wrong here.

I think it is unfair that people like her, have no right to be damaged, they must heal before bothering others with their pain, but people like him, or anyone else are OK to be hurt and we don't consider that on the same level. Because he clearly is damaged as well, otherwise, his pride wouldn't be more important if she did apologize. Maybe he didn't give an eff, I don't know.

Everyone has baggage, whether they admit it or not, if you go into things honestly and explain that, it is fair to expect the other party be empathetic, if they're not, you deserve someone who is at this part in your life.

Either way, learn from this, heal as much as you can, but you'll never be whole or perfect. And it's fair to expect the man who does share your journey, realizes and respects that, maybe even admires you for what you've been through and how hard you are working to heal from it. Your abuse, how you dealt with it, how you deal with life after it are all parts of you, you should have someone who would appreciate that and accepts all of you. That is true love, and you deserve that. Romanticize this away as long as you don't stalk him or damage yourself. Hang on to the good, wish for more of it, and move forward one tiny step at a time. Be thankful your abusive past is that, a past, and look forward to a good path. [/quote]

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