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[quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend has decided to quit drinking. I don't know if you get an official diagnosis as an alcoholic, but at the very least he has a drinking problem (controlling how much he drinks, behavior when drunk, etc.)

I am a casual/social drinker of beer only. (I don't drink liquor and rarely drink wine) To support his decision, I agreed that we won't keep any sort of alcohol in the house. I generally have a beer or 2 a couple nights a week at home, so that's going to be a change for me, which is fine. We also won't go out to the bar or drink when we go out on 'dates'. I usually have a few beers when we're out to dinner or something, and we would meet other couples on nights out. So, again, another change I am more than willing to make to accommodate him.

The problem is, he doesn't want me to [u]ever[/u] drink again. Even when I'm not with him. So, if I go out with my girlfriends, I can't have a beer with dinner with them. If we go to a special event, like a wedding, vacation, party, (something that doesn't happen on a frequent basis), I cannot drink there either. I asked if this is something while he's getting adjusted to not drinking. He says no, as long as he doesn't drink, I shouldn't either.

I feel like this is abnormal and is less about supporting him and feels more like him being controlling. But, I have never been around a recovering/sober alcoholic, don't attend meetings and I don't know if you are expected to never drink if you are in a relationship with them.

Does anyone know if my boyfriends requests are normal, or are they unreasonable.[/quote]

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