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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sounds to me like your wife is depressed OP.

I wouldn't take it too personally right now.

She is a SAHM who has little or no identity + her life revolves around basically three things: You, your children and the household. She most likely has not outside interests to speak of and feels as if she is in a rut. Plus caring for young children is very demanding work on a daily basis, even more so for those suffering from depression.

Is there any way you can convince her to get evaluated by a professional? It couldn't hurt and can only help.

If she is in fact depressed, some good medication can make a HUGE difference in everyone's life here.

Please consider my advice. It could make a world of difference to your precious children.

Good luck to all of you.[/quote]

Good advice.  Hey, I was your wife -- 10 years ago.  We went through a terrible 5-7 years.  That's a long time.  I was angry a lot.  I was a SAHM who had had a very good career and it was really hard for me to be at home and I fight very isolated.  I gained weight, and I had always been fit and attractive.   FINALLY I realized something had to change and I tried an antidepressant (Wellbutrin), it's not a panacea, but it has taken that very hard, I am going to lose it/I am so angry feeling away.   When the kids became school aged, I made some really great friends.  I got a dog.   I started doing book club, volunteering, EXERCISING, eating well, researching things I was interested in, meditation (I know sounds goofy).  This all changed me for the better and brought me back to who I felt I used to be -- but actually an improved version.   Our marriage isn't perfect, but we no longer think about divorce.  I hope the same can be true for you both.   (I used to YELL at the kids, and yank arms too hard, etc.  I feel terrible about those times, but I have a really great relationship with my kids and I have apologized, not sure how much they remember, but they remember some of it when mommy would lose it).    Good Luck!!  [/quote]

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