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As an only child, I am so happy to have two children who get along so well (boy and girl, 5 years apart).

Remember, OP, that as parents [b]we have some control over how our children interact[/b]. We can model healthy communication and boundaries and intervene when necessary. You are looking at this from the perspective of a powerless child.

I don't know of anyone who has had extra children because they were "supposed" to. Seems a pretty big financial, physical and emotional effort if you don't have an urge to love another child, no?[/quote]

A new poster here. I just want to address the bolded, because my mother tried to hard to manipulate the relationship between my brother and I while we were growing up. She viewed him as the golden child, and I was constantly told how great a brother I had, how lucky I was to have him as a brother. He of course, used this to his advantage and my mother always took his side by punishing me any time we fought. By the time we were teens we beat the shit out of each other any time we were home alone. We both had to put up huge walls and really distance ourselves from our parents in order to forge any type of sibling relationship.

So I caution you: don't use that control so much. Now my mother has two grown adult children who DO get along, just like she claims she always wanted, but almost no relationship with us. [/quote]

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