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[quote=Anonymous]People want to apply what happened to you to their own situation and life to reassure themselves that "It couldn't happen to me." The mental calculus goes like this: You: I left DH because he punched me. SIL: He punched you! (shock, horror that a normal stable marriage could fall to domestic violence -- it could happen to anyone including her -- she is at risk. She must, psychologically, find some way to differentiate you from her to make herself "safe.") SIL: What happened? You: He punched me in the leg. SIL: Just in the leg? (Relief, relaxation of all her fears. Her husband and marriage are safe from "real" violence). This is HER denial. [/quote]
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