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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would address it. I mean your supervisor 's in on it. But you must address it CALMLY. No crying and 'I'm so hurt's. If directly say, 'so I've been informed you guys think I'm lying about my childhood. Why is that?' Then I'd calmly explain that lots of people have had similar experiences. However, I would NOT attempt to prove things to them by bringing in baby pictures , people who could vouch for me , etc. I would end with a firm, 'We can agree to disagree ' or 'I was there, you were not'.

Again, you must sound CALM and assertive. They already think you're a pathological liar. You don't want to add emotional/crazy to the list-not in a work environ.[/quote]

Actually this is a good idea, especially the part about staying calm and unemotional, but I'd quickly shift it to the work at hand. THAT is the most important piece.

"It's come to my attention that some of you have been talking behind my back with regards to childhood events I've shared. Because of my parents' jobs, we moved around the world quite a bit, which is not typical for most families. Whether you choose to believe that the events happened is your prerogative. What is most important is the work that I do here. If you have any problems or questions about the work I do here, I ask that you act professionally and respectfully by speaking with me directly."

Then do NOT engage in any more chit chat about personal events. If folks are sharing around the water cooler, simply smile and keep quiet. Keep a low profile. Do your work and do it well. [/quote]

I think that is too defensive and long. I like PP's more succinct question and if a brief follow-up is required you can say something like "I was really shocked to hear that you all don't believe me. It may sound unusual, but it's much more common than you think." Keep it short and sweet.

I believe that eventually the truth reveals itself. Stay above the fray and people will eventually realize it. [/quote]

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