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[quote=Anonymous]DS has off of school for election day and was talking about someplace he wants to go during the day. I told him fine -- you have a drs. appointment first thing in the morning for a physical and then we have the whole day to go out. He is freaking out. I know he hates physicals and this is typically a battle, but never like this -- usually he's a bit miserable and complains but we make him go through with it and that's that. He needs one for winter sports (and bc it's been a yr and he needs a flu shot too). I know the issue is the testicle check bc he said it. I'm not entirely certain what they do at this age as I was out of the room last year, so I'm not sure if it's just "turn your head and cough" or if it's also feeling the testicles for bumps; and in the prior years when I was in the room, I was making sure not to look.

I know he freaked out with the dr. last year. The dr told me after that he was just worked up about it, which makes it take forever and then he gets more worked up bc it's taking forever. Don't know exactly but I think he was just moving away, pushing the drs' hands away etc. He has seen this dr for the last 5-6 yrs and otherwise likes him, says he's cool, chats with him etc. and has said he doesn't want to see someone else.

So ever since I mentioned the appointment this afternoon -- it's been screaming and yelling, getting sent to his room and being fine, the topic comes up later -- stomping, yelling he won't go etc. Seems like an overkill but I also don't know what to do about it. DH and I have both tried to be reasonable and said -- we know you don't like it, no one does but it's important; offered for him to see a different dr; assured him that he can be alone in the room or I can be there if he wants etc. Nothing works. DH is of little help here and after 90 seconds of being nice about it, he totally lost his cool and told DS he could "man up and deal with it." DH is a dr. and sees much more "serious" things all day, every day so he has zero sympathy for a son who is crying about this.

WWYD? Ignore him? Anything I can say? Anything DH to say? And DH will NOT go to the appointment with him; he has a full slate of patients and has told me that he isn't re arranging his entire schedule for this, so I'm kind of stuck dealing.[/quote]

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