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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well I put SO MUCH effort into helping my friends out that I think it's not asking too much to be given the same. I've helped them with jobs, counseled them on their relationship problems, given up sleep repeatedly for them. I place them first but I get placed second, third, or fourth.[/quote]

I'm assuming this is the OP -- but even if it isn't -- OP -- have you ever TOLD your friends you need help? Did you ever tell them you needed an opinion on your boyfriend OR that times were hard for you and you needed to meet up and chat? If you did that and they ignored you, that is different from you having scenarios in your mind when your friends SHOULD have stepped in and then being disappointed when they didn't read your mind. Some people make it a point not to opine on someone else's relationship or life unless asked.

And while DCUM isn't always a great place for friend advice, I've hung on to one piece of advice I received here recently -- people won't always reciprocate friendship how and when you want them to. You have to decide if the manner in which they reciprocate is enough for you. If it is, hold on to the friendship. If it isn't, let it go.[/quote]

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