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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP,

It sounds like you've tried to walk a fine line. Given what you've described, it does sound like he needs to struggle a bit!

In your shoes, I'd do as you did, and get him a laptop (a cheap one, not the latest MacBook), but not replace the iPhone. He doesn't need an iPhone.

Does he really need that car? I would sell it, and stop making those payments. Especially if he's neglecting maintenance. He can take public transportation. It sounds like he needs to learn the value of things.

I agree he doesn't deserve much sympathy when he complains about being the poor kid. Point to kids you know who have worked summers and have spending money now. Heck, you can claim you know us, with my full permission! We're a dual-earner, middle class family, and my kid not only has had jobs every summer, since spring of freshman year she's had a job at a store in her college's town.

Do you have other children? It seems unfair to make them go without (cable, perhaps other things like clothes or entertainment).[/quote]

No other children at home. My daughter did so well academically she received a full scholarship with stipends that covered books and everything else. DS on the other hand. I didn't even mention I still have a balance due on his tuition. :oops:

And trust me, I tried to return the car when he wouldn't get a job to take over the payments, but due to the depreciation I was unable to.

And I've told him about friends' children who returned to school this fall with THOUSANDS from working during the summer.

I figure I'll let him continue to struggle a bit and see how hard he works this summer. He can continue to email me as he did to let me know his UNCOVERED iphone was ruined in the pool. He can put a landline in his dorm room. :mrgreen: [/quote]

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