Reply to What do you do when one parent needs nursing care and the other is active?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "What do you do when one parent needs nursing care and the other is active?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with talking to their local Office on Aging.

I think there are two issues here:  1) where to live and 2) getting care for your mom so your dad is not so burnt out.

Living options are probably either making modifications to their existing home, selling and moving to a one-level house or apartment with handicap accessible features, and selling and moving to the independent living section of a community with a spectrum of care so your mom could move into skilled nursing care there if she gets worse.

I think in any case, your family should look into getting a health aide to come to help your mom bathe and look after her for a little bit so your dad can get a break.  You could try to do a mix of family members providing more assistance and paid caregivers.  There are also adult day programs where the family drops off the senior needing assistance and picks them up at the end of the day--program staff help them with the bathroom.  You may be able to find one that your mother could go to 1 day a week or a couple mornings a week.

It sounds like your mother does not need skilled nursing care at this point, but may in the future.  Best wishes to you and your family.[/quote]

^^ This! My husband and I were in this situation last year (became totally disabled from an accident). I totally sympathize with the situation. We ended up moving from an apartment to a house that was easy to modify. The whole process took almost a year and it was very nerve racking.  If there is a room on first floor like a seperate dining near the powder room you could convert that to a bedroom suite with a full bath.  You could then hire a private HHA for X amount of hours a day ... I find the morning and bed routine to be the hardest so maybe you could get someone come in the morning for 2 hrs... Get your mom of the bed, straighten her room give her a shower, run errands etc. then maybe you could have the aide come every other evening to help your mom with evening routine etc. I wish you the best in everything.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics