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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd be tempted to reply, "Thank you so much for the reminder to take good care of my son!  If you hadn't reminded me, I might have forgotten and left him in traffic or something."

Don't let them be your day care unless you want these battles every day.  [/quote]

Ugh, seriously.  The first few things you mentioned sounded annoying but maybe accounted for by generation gap issues that might get better with time,  but that email...I would have blown a gasket.

I will say that my first month or so with the baby and both sets of new GPs was not necessarily representative of how things have gone since then (my son is 15 mo).  They have calmed down a lot (in our case, it is more my parents who go a bit overboard sometimes).  It takes a while for your parents to get used to seeing you as a parent, and so I think at first the impression they have may be more like you are some teenage babysitter who needs instruction.  And I do find it helpful to remind myself that our parents do know a lot about raising kids, even if they aren't up on some of the latest stuff.

I would not let them babysit until I was sure that they were on board with your parenting choices, especially anything safety-related like the pillows you mentioned; they don't have to agree with them, but they do have to be willing to follow them.  I think its fine for things to be a little different with GPs - you don't necessarily have to strive for very single thing to be exactly the same at grandmas house as it is at home - but there are basics that have to be consistent.  One way I've tried to be diplomatic about some of the things that have changed since we were little is to acknowledge that it is a change and to wonder aloud what will be different when my kids are raising kids that I will have to get used to.  I think it can be helpful, too, to explain the reasons behind the new recommendations, when you can, although I probably actually sound like a pedantic jerk when I do that.  [/quote]

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