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[quote=Anonymous]My relationship with DH's parents has always been fine. They're kind, loving, generous people, but we have very little in common and our social interaction styles are very different. (DH is very different from them.) We spend time with them, but I always feel a little awkward.

We have a 1 month old DD now, and.. I'm not sure if I'm touchier about our differences, they're getting more difficult, or both. At our last visit, though, they:

-asked again if we're using formula, like they've done at every visit (I'm breastfeeding.. Still..)
-told us we burp her too hard 
-refused to hand her back when I asked (DH stepped in and just took her)
-were generally uncomfortable with newer parenting things, which I understand but adds to my feelings of frustration (not boiling pacis each time they're dropped, wanted to put a pillow under her face for tummy time, think we shouldn't be taking her out in public, etc)
-sent us an email afterward exhorting us to "please, please do take good care of her.. And please remember to support her head when you hold her."

With all of these, it seemed on the border between joking and serious.

Objectively, I know these are minor things, and it could be a LOT worse, and DH says he's just learned to ignore them. But they keep asking to babysit and even be our daycare, and I can't shake my discomfort with these interactions. It doesn't help that I'm exhausted, and my parents are deceased so I have no other grandparent interactions to compare this to (and I wish they were here, too).

So. How do I go about either fixing my attitude or changing my expectations or changing my behaviors around them to try to have a good relationship with them?[/quote]

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