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[quote=Anonymous]This is going to be a big adjustment physically so yes, chores distributed and patience with each other will be necessary for everyone's sanity.  Even is going to have to contribute.  FIL and BIL obviously are not used to being waited on so they should have a pretty good routine in place.  Try to incorporate that as much as possible.  If FIL did grocery shopping and BIL did laundry then keep it that way.

You say you have a small space.  Will everyone have their own room?  Everyone having their own space, even a small one (my brother lived with friends for a while and had a storage closet as his own nook) would be a huge boost and give some privacy.

The bigger piece is the adjustment emotionally.  This is going to be a huge thing for FIL because I imagine it will feel like "failure" to have to impose on his son and DIL like this.  I would really, REALLY push to have him get any kind of part time job just to get him out and about on a schedule as well as to help him feel that he's contributing.  If you can emphasize that sharing the costs now is a help for all of you, maybe he'll feel like he's not such a burden and even a part-time salary is beneficial.

BIL is a story too.  Depending on whether he's an old or a young teen makes a difference too as does his lifestyle.  Will this involve a school switch?  If he's a student with an active life in sports and valuable activities, I would allow him to focus on that and not be burdened with work.  If he's not a student or has afterschool hours not being used, then a job with some meaningful pay should be expected of him too.

You are doing a great thing for them but don't forget your husband.  Get out sometimes just the two of you for walks, window shopping etc (no need to spend since $ will be tight) just to talk and be together alone.  It will also give your new roommates time alone too.

And get out alone too.  Make time for girlfriends which will benefit you while giving your DH time with his brother and father.  Good luck![/quote]

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