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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you so much for your quick replies! The idea of some rules for friends being over and curfews is great. I will for sure word them as house rules not overstep his fathers parenting as to not cause problems. I also like the chore schedule. I'm overly clean so I am happy to do regular maintenance, but giving them some responsibility is great.  I am not sure of what sort of timeline to set in motion. I don't foresee this being a quick stay as FIL has lost everything and is older and has been actively trying to find employment for a long time now. It seems like everything is hitting him at once. I want them to feel like this can be their home if needed. [/quote]

If you and your husband are open to him living with you indefinitely that's fine, but he can't just be a lump on the couch, you know? Even if he gets a job at Costco part time, and a once-or-twice-a-week volunteer gig, he needs regular commitments that involve him regularly leaving the house each week. He could teach adults to read, be a library guy, walk dogs at a pet shelter, whatever. But he needs to help people to feel he has some self worth, and to meet some people.

Make a goal that beginning in the New Year, he starts paying $200 or whatever towards the utility bill or groceries or SOMETHING.

Also, consider who will be financially supporting the teen. They're expensive. Eat lots of food, need allowance, driver's ed, clothing, SAT prep classes, field trip money, random shit for school, money for presents for friends, etc. Will he be required to get a part time job? Will he only get allowance if his room is clean? [/quote]

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