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[quote=Anonymous]Okay, this might sound like a cliche situation but please hear me out, I've thought too much about it already.

I'm in my mid-twenties, work in HR. I think I'm almost married to my job because I spend almost 12 hours 5 days a week there. So we hired a new employee 6 months ago for a top management position - Sales Director. My company is HUGE world-wise but we have only 35 people in the office in my city.
The guy's 38 y.o., never married, I've heard rumors he's dating young models. The guy's gorgeous, my perfect type, really. One would say he's a playboy, but I heard him discussing with my boss that the girls nowadays only like him for money and it's very hard to find a good girl, etc etc.
Despite being in Sales, he's a good person, not exaggerrating. I cana clearly sense he likes me at least as a co-worker, because he ALWAYS treats me really well, and really treasures my opinion work-wise. It's not hypocrisy, I can sense that he's that kind of person. He does lots of good things and does them unconsciously.
He's also a very righteous person when it comes to life matters, he loves theater, brings up serious topics during lunch, from his discussions I figured out that he's the type that tries to do everything the right away, at least TRIES to.
He really trusts me and I can feel it, and sometimes I'm scared to betray that trust.
I remember asking him to give one guy a chance and I went on saying "Please? Pretty please?" He looked at me, turned a bit pink and said "Fine, I'll trust your intuition", Me: "No way, then it will be my fault if it doesn't work out". Him: "No, it won't be your fault, it's his last chance to prove he's right".

The way he treats my boss (she's an unmarried woman) is so different. They are like pals but at the same time they argue A LOT and he always accuses her of working too slowly, while he even patted me on the shoulder and told me to hold on for a bit more (because we have a lot of work). Or when we bump into each other, he'd slightly grab my arm and apologize, maybe it's not unusual but no one's done it to me before. Or when he's standing next to me, he stands so close, our arms touch. While my boss said that she tried to pat him once and he was not amused.

I've laughed my feelings for him off a lot of times. But I continue going back to thinking of him all the time. But you see, me... what about me. I'm FAR from looking like a model in every sense, I even often dress in jeans and shirts to work compared to his snowwhite shirts and hugo boss pants. I don't know how to flirt, I don't want to jump to bed with him, I just want to figure out if there IS a chance he could like me or he treats me like a kid (but he does date girls the same age as me!) or just as a good person (?) How can I make him notice me as a woman or figure out his attitude towards me?
I'd dress sexy and wear high heels but that way he'd be shorter than me, and I'm not even slim....

His assistant is a close friend of mine and she said she thinks he doesn't care about anyone like that at work, at least she thinks so, so she said I have no hope. I agree he's definitely popular among women but he's not the playboy type like "hey, babe, let's go to my downtown apartment" or something like that. Well, at least I've NEVER heard him boast nor to me neither to my colleagues.
I personally couldn't care less about his money. I think that money doesn't bring happiness, I can make a living for myself pretty well, so I don't need his money, apartments abroad and so on, that's not for me.

Oh man, I know this whole post sounds stupid, but I'd really appreciate a couple of opinions, I can't get him out of my head.

[b]ALSO IMPORTANT NOTE:[/b] No, I don't care if he's a coworker, we do have a couple of romances going on right now, it's not prohibited, moreover, HR director is more than supportive of such things at work, and I personally couldn't care less if he's my coworker or not. I'm leaving the country next spring anyway. But I just want to know.[/quote]

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