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[quote=Anonymous]I need some tips for how to not be irritated by a micromanaging in-law.  DH is in his 40s.  He is a partner at his company, has advanced degrees, and generally is a fairly competent individual.  However, when my FIL is here, FIL micromanages and whips himself up into all kinds of worry about things that (a) are not his business and (b) are not a problem.  He nags DH every morning about whether DH has taken his longstanding prescription medicine (what does FIL think happens when he is not here to nag about it??); on days when DH bikes to work, he calls DH to see if DH has made it to the office; if he sees a wallet lying around, he wants to know whose it is and says he has been riddled with anxiety thinking DH has left his wallet behind (when DH is upstairs getting ready for work).  The wallet example was doubly annoying because the instant I came in the door after dropping DS at school, FIL asks from the other room --while I still have my earbuds in--"Is this yours?" and points at something I cannot see.
He tells DS to bring his school backpack up to his room (not his job to deal with the backpack, and the backpack does not go up to the bedroom); he tells DS that it's time for a bath before bed (DS does not get a bath every single night and, again, getting DS ready for bed is not FIL's job).  These are just a few of many, many possible examples.

FIL is really very nice, but the nagging and micromanaging are annoying.  I try to just keep out of it, since he generally doesn't direct it at me, but it's still irritating.  I feel petty being irritated by it, but over time the annoyance accumulates and over the years my tolerance for it has diminished.  Can anyone relate?  Anyone have any tips for not letting it bother me?[/quote]

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