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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Honey, I am completely wiped and I still have to work this weekend, so I expect you to be in charge of entertaining your parents.  I've had no time to do any of the preparation I usually do, and you're just going to have to deal with it since you were so insistent on them coming during such a busy time (Remember, I warned you this would be the case).  I'll be working from x to y time on Saturday and y to z time Sunday.  Would you prefer that I stay home and you guys do an outing or vice versa?  I'll plan on joining you for dinner each day, whatever you figure out is fine.  Love you!"[/quote]

+1. OP, don't be a  martyr.  renovation, work and school, do what you can and share chores with your DH. he cannot put things away because he would not know where to put them? are you kidding me? he is presumably an adult like you, so he can do it exactly how you can do it. he may not know the first time if he has never done it before, he will learn fast. growing up I was a disorganized slob, not with a full time job and two little kids you bet I learned how to do things. my husband grew up with a stay at home mom in an old fashioned household (FIL working full time in an office, coming home and reading newspaper while MIL, who had watched 3 kids + other kids in in-home day care all day, would cater to the entire family, working basically the whole time), but he has been the one doing drop-offs and pick ups at daycare-school since the kids were babies, does laundry, clean up house, wash dished and so on. he is far from perfect but he works at home as much as I do and sometimes more, when I have to work weekends. instead of baking the cake, buy one and be done with it.  and take advantage of your in-laws. tell them they are coming at the right time since you are both so overworked you can certainly use their help. since your MIL is so good (see her passive aggressive comments), she can step in and help, and show you how things are done.  most of all, take out of your mind this martyr mentality that you need to make the impossible, work full time, go to school  and still be this perfect 1950's housewife who greets husband and guests perfectly dressed, hair done, spotless house and dinner on the table. [/quote]

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