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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Its been many years, for various reasons - bad tearing in childbirth that healed poorly, illness, etc.  we're past all the (arguably) valid excuses but I'm not sure we can reverse it now that its been so long; at least, the old 'date night' or 'wear sexy clothes' advice isnt going to cut it.  Has anyone successfully reversed 5+ years of sexless marriage, and how?[/quote]

We have not yet, though we're in the process, I think. Similar situation.. two children followed by a longish (1 year +) illness had us ending up with many dry years. Sometimes I was SO frustrated. I think both of us wanted it. But both of us also felt somewhat wounded by what we perceived as lack of interest from the other. And, being female, I wanted to rebuild a sense of intimacy and romance before restarting a sexual relationship, while he wanted to restart the sexual relationship to reestablish intimacy.

But through all that we didn't lose respect for each other, and we were always kind to one another. So, it just takes some faith, I think. And a commitment. It was such a long time that sometimes I worry I've lost some of my libido. I hope I can regain it. We're in the process of restarting. (twice in the two weeks! Compared to almost none in the last 8 yrs.) Eeek. It's hard. It feels almost weird. But I have to believe it's going to work. I want a sex life again! But part of the problem is that we weren't the most physically compatible people to begin with. Still, I think it's going to work.[/quote]

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