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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a school of thought that bosses find the salary which, if they imposed it on their employee, the employee would quit; then the boss pays $1 dollar more than that.  I've come to realize that my wife is doing that to me with sex.  She found that sweet spot.  And sadly, while a boss would have to give the employee raises over time, my wife offers me less sex.  She can get away with that because I love our children and a divorce would be too damaging.  Just last night we had another I-know-we-need-to-have-more-sex talk.  They happen once every year or so.  But I now realize that they don't lead to more sex either; they're just lip service to the unrealistic idea that she wants to want to have sex with me.  But if she actually wanted to have sex with me, we wouldn't talk.  We'd just have sex.  I'd like to keep a positive attitude, but I'm just fucking miserable.[/quote]

That's a terrible situation. What are you trying to do to improve it?  The employee in that situation would be looking for ways to improve the situation, either internally (developing more skills, trying to find a different position within the organization) or externally (considering other job offers).  I totally sympathize with your situation, but until you have exhausted what you can reasonably do -- i.e., getting in good shape, being more direct with your DW about your needs and expectations on a more than annual basis -- complaining on line is not productive, and indeed is worse than productive because it seems like action but isn't.  Marriage does not excuse anyone from the reality of the sexual market; work on yourself to improve your options either within or outside of your current organization.  :)[/quote]

OP here.  Believe it or not, I didn't write my post thinking that it would cause a magic turnaround.  I wrote it to vent.  [/quote]

And vent you must! That PP is obviously someone who blames someone else for everything instead of taking responsibility. Intimacy with your spouse should never be conditional on anything you do, or what shape you are in! It should be an unconditional expression of affection, and if it does not happen, you are legally, and reasonably justified in going elsewhere![/quote]

+ a million.

and I seriously hope PP is a woman b/c this post gives me hope that there indeed are reasonable and sane women who post on DCUM.[/quote]

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