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Firstly the disclaimer: I am not a troll, I am not discriminating against any race/ethnicity, I am not passively promoting anything. I just have a genuine question, and am inviting feedback. Whew! Now that I have cleared the air, I am hoping I can get some feedback on this.

I am an early 30s, single w/o kids, black male (not American, but close enough) and I only seem to be attracted to non-black women. I have female friends from all continents, but personally, I have only (intimately) dated Black Caribbean, Black African, White European (Western, Central and East), White British, Mixed (black and white), and Persian. Honestly, I only ever feel that extra hmmm hmmm hmmm when I am with a non-black female, usually white. I am also really having a hard time politely explaining to (black) women that, although I find them attractive, and would date them, it would not be fair to them to get too serious because I may very well stray. Some feel let down, and some understand. However, I owe them the dignity to be totally honest and up front, but I am also having a hard time trying to explain this feeling to myself.

This is not to say I have not seen white or non-black women who I totally pass on. I am NOT attracted to any and everything non-black! It is just that when I am attracted, this attraction is more intense usually with white women.

It is more than the sexual/physiological aspect for me. It's some other psychological trigger that does it for me every time. I don't know if it has anything to do with only growing up with women, only having sisters, or the usual assumptions about educated/professional black men. I can't seem to find anything scientific to explain why I only feel that extra thing for these other women. So I am throwing it out, and asking for feedback or any likely explanations.

Is anyone else in this position (male or female), or you know of others' experiences? [/quote]

Why would you need anyone's opinion on this? It is what it is. A matter of preference.[/quote]

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