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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]I live in upper NW DC in a tight knit community and my kids are in mid elementary school.  
All the parents are pretty high achievers.  We're not the ultra-moneyed or VIPs of DC but we do okay.  We went to good schools, were close the the top (if not at the top) of our respective classes, make decent salaries, invest fully in our kids' lives, etc. 
So in general our kids are bright, well adjusted and will probably in turn do fairly well in life. [/b]  However, most of us are pretty grounded as well--we know that our little leaguer (despite his two home runs on Saturday) is NEVER going to get a college baseline scholarship let alone make it to MLB.   We recognize that we probably don't have the one kid out of 50 in this community that will actually make it to the Ivy League (without connections or legacy status).  And we're totally okay with that.

However, every once in awhile I meet a parent who is completely deluded about their kids actual abilities.  And it's never the ones who actually have a true stand out kid!  It's the parent whose kid clearly is on the bottom third on the rec soccer team who tells me that "he is just a brilliant player" and 150% means it.  It's the other parent who tells everyone they meet that their child is Ivy League bound although the kid does not stand out at all academically (while clearly there are ones who do--not mine--but after a few years in a small school it becomes clear who the 1 or 2 true academic standouts per grade are).

So what's the deal behind parents like this?  I find that 98% of us around here have totally reasonable (and grounded in reality) views of our children's abilities.  And then 1-2% of parents are blind as bats when it comes to their kids abilities.  And again, it's never the ones who actually have the stand-out kids.  What drives this thinking?[/quote]

I think you are actually delusional. One does not equal the other.  [/quote]

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