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[quote=Anonymous]Unlike many people I get along really well with my MIL. She is almost like a second mum to me. She has three sons and no daughters. Last year her youngest son married a young lady. SIL lives about an hour away from me near MIL. MIL and I talk often during the week.  Sometimes more than once a day even. Lately I've found out that she's been lying to me about her relationship with her new DIL and also with her potential daughter in law. She has said in the past that she is not close with SIL. But recently I have discovered that she hangs out with them individually quite often. Although she's under no obligation to run down her day to me she will often tell me she's done nothing all day or that she went out shopping alone and later I will find out from BIL, SIL or potential SiL that they went out with her on such day when she pretended to be alone. I'm in no way upset about this other than the fact that she feels the need to be dishonest. Is this normal? Is it how women with no daughters act in order to try to balance out the in law relationships?  I know that MIL looks at me as a daughter and that we are close. In the past MIL has told me she will never be close to another one of her son's future wives because I am like a true daughter and no one will take my place. My response to her was that I appreciated that but was sure that she would find something to connect with in each of us.  I was not close minded to the fact that there would be two more women in her life. Can anyone reason why this is happening? I feel like it makes for an awkward situation for me, SIL and potential SIL and that it could be a recipe for disaster in making us feel like we are in competition with one another. For me she is a great MIL, but it's obvious to me that she doesn't know how to juggle her relationships with us. What can I do to keep this from becoming an issue?

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