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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband was laid off.  We moved several, well, more than several, hours away to a very small town when he found a job there.  It’s been nothing but culture shock since we got here.  I grew up in DC and now live in a town of about 15,000 people.  I am a consultant and my employer was gracious enough to let me keep my job and work remotely which has helped a lot with the bills but it’s been a tough adjustment.  We now have a four month old son, who clearly was planned before DH lost his job.  Obviously all of his has been stressful.

In the middle of this he decided he wanted to join the Army Reserve.  No, he did not consult with me.  Who does that?[b] I think he is away more than he is home and I feel like that’s my fault. [/b] Right now he is gone for three weeks of training and would like to volunteer for a deployment.

I feel like I don’t know him anymore.  I am scared I don’t love him anymore.  This isn't about finances.  I guess it's just mourning the life we used to have, on all fronts.  My life now consists of working alone, raising a child alone, and for the most part, living alone.  Has anyone gotten past these kind of changes and moved on?  How did you do it?
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This statement (bolded) is a red flag that you should see a therapist.  He is CHOOSING to be away from you and your son.  You don't own his choices.  A therapist can help you see that and feel better about yourself.

OP, I too am someone who takes marriage vows very seriously and couldn't imagine divorcing my DH.  But. I still think you should talk to an attorney just so you know what the possibilities are, and they can probably give you some tips on safeguarding your family's financial assets while DH is going through such a tough time.[/quote]

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