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[quote=Anonymous]Don't pounce on me and call me horrible or a bad daughter - I know I am one.

My dad is the best man in the world. He has always been loving, generous, selfless, kind, sweet, eager to please, feminist, and devoted to his children. He really is the best man ever. The fact that he is highly socially awkward wouldn't bother me too much. But he also has almost no self-esteem. Just no self-esteem. I understand why (he was bullied a lot in school, was naturally sensitive and awkward, never had any luck with women, etc) and am not judging: he is an amazing person, I'm lucky to have him and I honestly do love him. I'd die for him.

But anyone can bulldoze him. He's very smart an an academic superstar but he cows before the women in the family. He apologizes too much. He's nervous and wants to please. He wants his kids' approval, like he wants everyone's approval.

How do you tell your own father he needs self-confidence without emasculating him by actually saying that?

My mom is completely different but she has stuck by my dad because he is a good man and she loves him despite all of this. I love him too. But I don't respect. What do I do to repair this? It's awful to say that I don't respect my own dad, who is a good person. And I can't very well say, "Dad we need to do father-daughter therapy" because that would make him feel even more inadequate than he already does.

Go easy on me!

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