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[quote=Anonymous]So we all know exactly how this goes.  This is a 100% DH problem.  You know that if you are the one to confront them, they will hate you and based on what you've told us, will probably make a point to make things even more miserable for you.  You know that you are more stressed than usual because you have a new baby.  So your only option is to explain to DH.  This is what I would say to them:

"I don't want to confront your parents, because no matter what I say or how nicely I say it, they may take it the wrong way and hate me.  But this can't go on much longer.  If I have no choice, I am going to establish very strict boundaries with them and they are probably going to hate me.  It's much less likely that they are going to hate you, but you aren't leaving me with much of a choice in the matter.  They are your parents, they love you, and there's very little chance that they will hate you for talking to them."

Just leave it at that.  Don't criticize him or his parents, but just explain that this can't go on much longer.  But it's much better to hurt your relationship with them, as opposed to your relationship with DH.  If he won't talk to them you have to warn him that you will confront them and he has to at least accept that.  And you will have to take action.  I know you're probably a nice person, but some people are just steamrollers and you have to be confrontational with them.  This is a challenge just don't let it hurt your marriage.  In my marriage, it's MY mother who is a steamroller.  She gets VERY jealous and upset and is constantly threatened by DH.  But my relationship with DH is my first priority and I have to stick with him.[/quote]

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