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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a (medical) user thanks to a few brain tumors - DH is not. I only smoke in the evenings after everything else is done so I can eat something and get some sleep, it is simply off limits to me if I have things to get done, but I do smoke every day (DH encourages because otherwise I can't eat and he worries). I know another man who had serious head injuries from a motorcycle accident and smokes all day every day - I'm good friends with his wife. She has to keep up a whiteboard of tasks for him to do so he can visually see his responsibilities and check them off because otherwise he enters into a fog and does nothing. It's extra work for her but he has a good excuse to be smoking and she'd rather see that than him popping pain pills day in and day out. Dunno if either of those are helpful scenarios since it doesn't sound like your husband has a diagnosed issue (maybe anxiety? A lot of people who smoke recreationally but a lot have anxiety) but my takeaways would be 1) the user needs to have enough self control to regulate usage so that they're able to meet their daily responsibilities 2) sometimes it is hard on the spouse, and he needs to be prepared to speak honestly with you and really hear you when you tell him how difficult his habit is making things.

FWIW I go without a lot of little luxuries to afford my habit because it improves my quality of life so immensely, but when things were really tough I took a few months off from smoking so we could pay our bills. Have to be able to weigh priorities and recognize that they are going to shift according to circumstance.[/quote]

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