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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm struggling to find an analogy to help you see how desperately you need to leave.

Go somewhere in your house where your DH cannot hear you.  Lock the door.  Read your post aloud to yourself - except pretend that it's your sister or your mom or your best friend calling to tell you what just happened between her DH and you.  Would you say to her "Well, why'd you push past his leg?  That's your fault and you deserve it."

Next, close your eyes and imagine your DC calling you 15 years from now, from her college dorm, telling you that her boyfriend just hit her because she bumped into him while trying to get her books to study.  Would you say "Well, you deserved that.  Next time be more considerate of him."

Regardless of your answer to either of the two questions, you need immediate support/counseling to help you make decisions and understand your current options emotionally and physically.

And if your answer to either of the questions is "yes," then you need intensive and extensive help understanding that never, ever, ever, ever is it acceptable for a partner to hit another.  I don't care whether you 'provoked' it or not:  you didn't deserve to be hit.  Your children didn't ask to be in a situation where violence is the answer to frustration.

Get out.  It will get worse.  You will get hurt even more than you already are hurt.  And if nothing else will convince you -- please, please think of what you are teaching your children about responding to violence.   They need to learn a different message:  Violence is never okay.  Ever.

Good luck and God bless you.[/quote]

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