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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get more involved with church and church youth groups, or homeschooling?[/quote]

Why? So the kid can be made afraid and ashamed of normal sexual curiosities and desires? OP - don't do this!

But what you should do is possibly add additional protections on the computer (if possible….I'm not an expert), but you're right that it's only a temporary fix. You need to have an open and honest discussion about this with him. Let him know that it is totally normal to be curious, but what he can see on a computer is not the "real" thing and it's not something that is right for him to be watching. He may be young, but he also may be hearing things at school and, goodness knows, kids are certainly exposed to "stuff" at a much younger age then any of us were back in the day. Hopefully, you've already had a few discussion with him about puberty and sex and this will simply be a continuation of the discussion. If you haven't started talking about it then it's most definitely time to start! He should not be made to feel ashamed because that could bite you later on. He has to know that it is normal to be curious and that he can always ask any questions and come to you (or your DH) for those answers. However, he also needs to know that you do not want him doing that and give him good reasons - not just because it's "bad". There are so many reasons why porn is inappropriate - one of the biggest being that it is so misogynist - and he needs to start hearing from you what is ok. Give him a chance to talk with you (and/or your DH). He will probably be a little bit embarrassed, but if you handle yourself with ease then he will feel better about it.

And remember, this is not a one-time conversation. You will be having this conversation over and over again in various forms throughout the next several years!

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The depiction in porn is not normal.[/quote]

how much porn have you watched?  
not all porn is bestiality and/or abusive.[/quote]

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