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[quote=Anonymous]How dare she not cancel on an existing commitment because you want her to?

Can you even hear how entitled you sound?  Your kids are your responsibility.  Help from family can be asked for when needed, and should always be appreciated (even if not at the "right" time), but is not owed to you.

I get that you are stressed and were hoping that your mom would alleviate that, but you have a military husband, so it's not like his absence during the early days of #3 is an unforeseeable event.  You knew this was a possibility (I'm military myself), so you should have a) talked it through with your mom before it came up ("I feel confident that I can't handle 3 kids by myself until the baby is X months old.  If DH has to leave before then, would you be able to make helping out a priority?"), and b) sought out multiple backup plans (neighborhood teen mother's helper, classmate who is willing to handle carpools, friends from church, wives of DH's shipmates/whatever group is available, other friends or relatives).  You had exactly one plan "If DH has to leave, my mother will drop everything and help me for several weeks."

Your mom is no obligated to justify her priorities to you.  She has a committment during that time.  She is not being a bad mom; she is keeping her word to the people in her life.[/quote]

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