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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I take it this trip is a beach vacation? We used to do vacations with the IL's and I hated it. I wanted to spend my vacation time with my nuclear family not a trip that I didn't want to do with IL's.

I realized that my tolerance level with IL's only lasted for an extended weekend, so when they were doing the whole beach house thing, our family only stayed  until Tuesday. Enough to give IL's time with our family but before I went crazy.

The beach vacation no longer happens (yippee!!!). Now we will just go someplace with the IL's for a long weekend and that is perfect. They get the family bonding time and I get to have my longer vacations with my family. And the vacations the 4 of us have taken have been fantastic. Highly recommend taking vacations with just your nuclear family.

So...take a real vacation with your family but then do an extended weekend with the IL's (Memorial Day and Labor Day are perfect for this. You don't have to use up a vacation day!)[/quote]

OP here.  I would love this!  Unfortunately, there is no talking to ILs about "better ideas".  They think their ideas are the best, and it is a personal affront to them if we suggest another place/time/date/etc.  In fact, if they were open to any one of those, it would work SO much better for everyone, themselves included.  But again, there is no telling them anything, unfortunately.  There is no changing anything, they fear - no, are deathly petrified to an unreasonable and detrimental measure - change.   Therein lies most of the problem, I suppose. Sigh.

I think the key is getting DH to agree to a few days of "laughs a minute, mayhem and foolishness" (sarcasm) - which would imply they actually converse.  I apologize for using sarcasm as a coping mechanism, but its a really negative experience, all around.  It just plain sucks.

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