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[quote=Anonymous]I think you have to let your father decide what he wants to do.  You can tell him that you will no longer be around your mother, but you very much want to preserve and support his relationship with your child.  Then have a list of things he and your family or your child can do together.

Try as much as you can to provide opportunities for those kinds of things and then leave it up to him.  It's a hard choice for him, certainly, but if he's been surviving these dynamics with your mother for decades then he has some sort of coping mechanism for managing it.

(I have some similar dynamics w/ my parents.   My father is the one I have to keep at arms lenght, and with whom all contact is very carefully monitored.  My mother has lots of contact w/ my kids without my dad and she and I both figure out ways to make that happen.)

FWIW, one of the tools we use a lot, which may or may not help with you, is Skype.  We skype w/ my mom all the time at times when we know my dad is not around.

Perhaps over time you will figure out ways you can allow a bit of highly controlled contact so it doesn't have to feel quite so extreme, but your family - meaning your husband and kids - have to come first.  You're doing the right thing to protect them.

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