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[quote=Anonymous]If your dad is actually a good parent, then he wants your mental health.  You say he "cannot" stand up for you beyond a certain point because he had "has to" protect himself.  That is a lie you have told yourself to justify his behavior.  The reality is, that he loves you enough to stand up for you up to a certain point, but that he too is dysfunctional in that he chooses to continue to be married to your mother.  If he actually sees the mental health issues that she has and is not willing to leave that relationship if that is what it takes to provide a stable and loving parent relationship to his child, then that is what he is choosing.  No one has forced him to be in this dysfunctional relationship, and if you were old enough to be married with a two-year-old, then any idea that he was staying to provide a stable home for his child is over.  You need to protect yourself, and if he actually values his relationship with you and with your two-year-old then he will find a way to make it continue even if it means that he to has to cut off your mother.  If his desire to have her in his life is more important than his desire to have you and his grandchild in his life, then that is his choice.  But please know that you will in no way be limiting his contact with you or cutting off that relationship. You are simply making inconvenient for him to play both sides.[/quote]

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