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[quote=Anonymous]For the past year, and maybe even longer if I'm being honest,  my marriage has been falling apart. It's late and I'm on my phone,  so I don't want to type out all the nitty-gritty details,  but basically as my husband puts it, we aren't a great match.  Fairly opposite sex drives,  opposite work schedules,  different views on parenthood. And while yes these issues were there pre-wedding, it's certainly gotten worse each year. And as far as parenthood,  we planned to not have any children and ended up with an "oops" baby 6 years ago. I've been trying to increase my sex drive,  and find a new job so our schedules match better,    but my efforts are just falling short. DH said something tonight in passing (after what I thought was some fun sex) that sort of drove the point home to me again that I really don't satisfy him as a wife.  I don't even think he realized it, and hw wasn't trying to make a comment about it, since later on he was concerned about me being sad tonight but ugh.

I know not every marriage works, and if people can't match up on the important things it's probably for the best they part ways but I hate it so much that my life is reaching this point. I'm fairly certain that after December (our "deadline" for getting on back on track relationship wise) DH will ask for a separation and divorce. Intellectually I know if he's not satisfied,  that's for the best for us and our child, because with this strain between us there's naturally increased tension and conflict at home, but my heart is just hurting.  I don't know what else I can do at this point.

And since I know people will come with their "helpful" comments,  yes I give BJs,  multiple times a week even, we have sex probably 4-6x a week,  I'm the one responsible for the household shit so he's got it as easy as I can make it at home. We both work full time and financially contribute close to the same amount of money income wise. Neither of us is working significantly harder at work than the other or carrying the "breadwinner" burden, so that's not a source of stress.

I guess I'm not looking for anything but to vent. I don't want to tell my close friends the depth of how bad things are until I know 100% it's over so I really have no one to talk to except DH.  And I'm trying to stop crying to him about stuff,  because I don't want him to feel bad or stay out of guilt. I just wish I was enough for him. [/quote]

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