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[quote=Anonymous]I'm not sure if this is the right board for this but I'm married with kids.  My parents have been divorced my entire life.  Dad kept in contact with me but always worked as little as possible (in order to avoid paying?) and didn't pay much of his child support until he was in his 40's (paying arrears at that point as I was an adult).  I'm middle class and have a house with a guest bedroom that in-laws and my mom and her new husband stay in (as well as my dad).  We are doing our best to make it and save for retirement and college for the kids.

The other day I hear from dad "I'm retiring at 62 on Social Security and will be moving in with you."  He has no savings, 401k, or pension.  So he's decided this for me?  He's lived with my grandparents his whole life basically mooching off them and now wants to do it to his kid.  Not only do I not want him living with me permanently.  Not only would he drive me insane, he acts like a spoiled entitled child and orders people around (because my grandmother let him act this was for 60 years?).  I could give examples but take the "I'm moving in with you" without talking to us first as an example of his daily attitude.  Additionally it's not fair for the rest of the family that would like to see our kids.

I told him a year ago that he's not living with us and he's said it again.  I don't know if he "forgot" last time, is trying to wear me down, or what but it's frustrating that he told me again that he's going to live here in 2 years.  Anyone have advice on how to deal with this situation.  I guess I could do something passive aggressive like have my mom "visiting" when he wants to move here but that wouldn't resolve anything.[/quote]

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