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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with PP advice.

But.

If the dollar mount spent bothers you, later on bring up with him that while you truly appreciate the gesture, it makes you uncomfortable for him to spend such large sums of money without your input, and ask him to limit surprise purchases to $X dollars.

I say that because for me I could brush it off and look on the bright side once, but would have real trouble about the dollars being used for things I didn't want if it meant things I would truly value (say a nice family vacation) then couldn't happen or would have to be put off.

Basically separate the issues:
(1) Him surprising you with a gift that's not really your style: focus on the gesture, let the piece grow on you, and wear it out on a date since it will make him happy.

(2) Him spending 25% of your monthly budget without your input: let him know if that is not something you are ready to deal with, especially if the money comes from joint funds.  If it's 'his' money and this isn't an issue you can ignore this.[/quote]

One thing to consider with the money is DH may be getting a per diem to cover meals and expenses when he travels and could be spending less on meals and banking part of the per diem.[/quote]

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