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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a "friend" that is constantly performing a microanalysis of everything I do.  She's really focused on yoga, "clean eating" and environmentalism.  Which is fine for her, but when she comes over to my house she'll often point out that, for example, my children eat some non-organic produce.  It's like she can't just live her life and let me live mine, as is.  She's constantly nitpicking every detail.  If my kids watch a cartoon, not only does she comment about how they should be more active, but [b]she'll make a point of critiquing the fact that the cartoon characters ate cookies![/b]

I know this lifestyle is really important to her, and I try to be supportive and understanding.  If meditation, organic grapes, and creek cleanups do it for her, that's fine.  I've gone along to sweep the creek, and have taken a yoga class or two with her, but it's just not something I am passionate about the way she is.

Thing is, she looks down her nose at me for not being exactly the same.  And when it comes to things that are important to me?  She doesn't ever want to talk about them, learn about them, or participate. The only person who is allowed to have concerns and opinions is her. Our "friendship" is basically her judging me for being different than she is.

How do I say that to her?  Is this friendship even worth saving, or should I cut her loose and move on?[/quote]

:) Tell her how you feel and see how she responds. Could be she that she isn't aware of her behavior. If she still does the same things, maybe let the "friendship" fade.[/quote]

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