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[quote=Anonymous]My mother is always buying people gifts.
I appreciate her kindness but wish she wouldn't for two reasons.

1.  She is flat broke and going deeper into debt everyday.  My mother is disabled and survives on SSI Disability.  She can barely afford her necessities.
She got herself approved for a credit card with a 25% APR.
She charges things like dinners out, gifts and cable television.
It drives me batty.  She can't even afford the minimum payment and sees no problem with what she is doing.

2.  She buys CRAP.  I appreciate the fact that she wants to buy me gifts.
The thought and intention behind the gifts are wonderful.
She buys my sister and I clothes.  We insist she not, as they never fit and are never our style.
She called me last night and told me that she is buying us Tshirts with our last name and family crest.
I insisted she not spend her money and she gave me the old "I'll do what I want" speech.
I will never wear this.  The stuff she sends us goes straight into the trash or gets donated immediately.

My mom is 54 and had 2 massive strokes 12 years ago due to drug abuse.
She has very limited mobility.  My sister and I also live over 1,000 miles from her.
I know she is lonely and buying these gifts is a way for her to show her love.
I just don't want to see her go deeper into debt.
I have tried to get her into counselling and she flat refuses.  There's no way in hell that will happen.
I encourage her to make friends in her disabled-living community.  She won't do that either.
She only wants to online shop and play computer BINGO.
What am I supposed to do?[/quote]

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