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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have children and, if so, has he made it his primary job to raise them so that you could, for example, put in the hours as a career-track associate to make partner at your firm?  If so, then your success was, at least in part, made possible by his sacrifice.  By this I mean that you were able to work late nights, weekends, travel at a moment's notice, go into work early, while he took the children to school, doctor's appointments, sports practices, music rehearsals, made dinner, etc.

If you do not have nay children and my scenario is not the case, then you need to explain to your husband that you are very concerned about his lack of ambition, and that you expect him to work diligently on his career because your assets and income will in no way be used to support his family, or even him unless he steps up to the plate. [/quote]

We have children but none of the above applied. We have had to hire nannies or my family has cared for them. He has never been a stay at home dad, he has needed the same amount of time as me in respects to education (class, labs, projects) and has always worked as well, requiring fulltime childcare . Shuttling around to activities, etc has been mostly shared, possibly more driving on my part because my schedule for coming and going aligned well, and household responsibilities have mostly been done by me. I'm still very traditional in my home life, one of the reasons this is hard for me to swallow, my image of a partner is changing...[/quote]

If he is not taking care of the children, is not particularly involved in the home life, and is not working very hard at his career - what has he been doing while at work?  Or is it the case that his job, unlike your partner-track career, is one with limited-income potential.  Many people, for example teachers, emergency personnel, municipal employees, may be giving their career their very all -but those careers may just not pay very well.  If he works to his potential in a sector or industry with modest pay, then I do not think that you should resent his not looking for another higher-paying line of work, particularly if he likes his job.  If your husband is simply shirking, loafing, sitting at his desk, and his skills and income have stagnated as a result, then that is another thing altogether.

People say that they want a supportive husband who will prioritize his home life over his work life, but I just think that most women (and I am one) want a husband who can fill the traditional role of supporting the family.[/quote]

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