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[quote=Anonymous]So I am not quite sure this is the appropriate place to post this or even if I have any hard questions, but here is the deal.

My husband and I have been together a long time, we were high school sweethearts, we've been through everything imaginable together including living on 25k a year, very real struggles. Fast forward the summation of all my hard work is coming to an end and I will finally start making real money, to the rune of $750k a year. Over time, as the reality of my potential salary became more and more concrete, I've found that he has become less and less ambitious. It started early on, ugrad, now grad. There is little focus on what he wants, what he is going after, and making it happen. The closer we get to my own career end goal, the farther it seems he has a clear idea of his own.

Our marriage is not perfect, far from it. And I feel my feelings get worse with time as I don't see the ambition, leadership and strength I fell in love with. I wouldn't be surprised if divorce was in the cards for us. If I was being realistic, it's very possible in the next five years.

I feel a lot of pressure because of my potential earnings, and he often talks about how he wants to buy XYZ for his dad, sister, niece, how he needs to support this person and that person. But the way he is going, he would be lucky to make 100k from his own salary. Is it expected for me to do these things for his family?  If it was simply he is doing what he loves and it's just a lower paying career, that's one thing, but it's starting to seem like he feels he has it made and does not need to make serious career moves, or plan financially.

Obviously there was no prenup when we got married, I'm not sure if I'm supposed to do something at this point to protect myself financially.[/quote]

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