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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP here- so on the weekend, I do go to the gym at 7 am because it opens later and my DH and kid are usually still sleeping ( our kid actually sleeps in). If I go to yoga, that might by a bit later, so the one poster is correct in saying that I do leave our child with him.
 During the week, I run outside or use DVDs at home to save on gym commute time.  I work full time as does he so being efficient with free time is important.

I'll be honest and do wish that we could be the kind of couple that works out together but it's not his thing and I've accepted that. I guess I should accept that I can't MAKE him chose healthier habits. It would be best to be supportive when he does so.

I don't like it when he criticizes exercise in front of our child though. He's even said things like "studies show that working out is bad for you" in reference to a study on people who take rigorous regimens like Crossfit to an extreme. I want our DC to see that exercise is an important part of being a healthy person physically and emotionally. It's definitely a tense subject.

Thanks all for your advice though.[/quote]

You two really, and I mean REALLY, need to learn to communicate.  Right now, you are both so passive aggressive it hurts to read your post.  You have different opinions on the exercise and rather than discuss how to present a united front in front of your child, you both snipe at each other sidewise in front of your child.  Don't think that your child doesn't pick up on the animosity between you because children that age often don't understand the words, but understand the tone and body language.  She understands that Mommy exercises and Daddy doesn't like it; while Daddy does not exercise and Mommy doesn't like it.  They just get annoyed with each other and  act like they don't like each other.  That's what's she's reading, which is what's going on.  Right now, your whole attitude reeks of disapproval of your husband and he's reacting defensively to it.  So he criticizes your exercise habits and you react defensively to it.

You need to sit down when DD is not there, and talk about the fact that you don't see eye-to-eye on exercise.  Then you need to come to a decision on how to talk about exercise in front of your child, or agree not to discuss it in front of your child.  But this sniping at each other is very unhealthy emotionally for your child and each of your relationship with your child.  Grow up.  You two are parents.  You shouldn't be so childish around your child.[/quote]

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